It's Ok That You're Not Ok

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Whenapainfullossorlife-shatteringeventupendsyourworld,hereisthefirstthingtoknow:thereisnothingwrongwithgrief."Griefissimplyloveinitsmostwildandpainfulform,"saysMeganDevine."Itisanaturalandsaneresponsetoloss."

So,whydoesourculturetreatgrieflikeadiseasetobecuredasquicklyaspossible?

InIt'sOKThatYou'reNotOK,MeganDevineoffersaprofoundnewapproachtoboththeexperienceofgriefandthewaywetrytohelpotherswhohaveenduredtragedy.Havingexperiencedgrieffrombothsides--asbothatherapistandasawomanwhowitnessedtheaccidentaldrowningofherbelovedpartner--Meganwriteswithdeepinsightabouttheunspokentruthsofloss,love,andhealing.Shedebunkstheculturallyprescribedgoalofreturningtoanormal,"happy"life,replacingitwithafarhealthiermiddlepath,onethatinvitesustobuildalifealongsidegriefratherthanseekingtoovercomeit.Inthiscompellingandheartfulbook,you'lllearn:

-Whywell-meaningadvice,therapy,andspiritualwisdomsooftenendupmakingitharderforpeopleingrief
-Howchallengingthemythsofgrief--doingawaywithstages,timetables,andunrealisticidealsabouthowgriefshouldunfold--allowsustoacceptgriefasamysterytobehonoredinsteadofaproblemtosolve
-Practicalguidanceformanagingstress,improvingsleep,anddecreasinganxietywithouttryingto"fix"yourpain
-Howtohelpthepeopleyoulove--withessaystoteachusthebestskills,checklists,andsuggestionsforsupportingandcomfortingothersthroughthegrievingprocess

Manypeoplewhohavesufferedalossfeeljudged,dismissed,andmisunderstoodbyaculturethatwantsto"solve"grief.Meganwrites,"Griefnomoreneedsasolutionthanloveneedsasolution."Throughstories,research,lifetips,andcreativeandmindfulness-basedpractices,sheoffersauniqueguidethroughanexperienceweallmustface--inourpersonallives,inthelivesofthosewelove,andinthewiderworld.

It'sOKThatYou'reNotOKisabookforgrievingpeople,thosewholovethem,andallthoseseekingtolovethemselves--andeachother--better.